Emotional Intelligence

February 4, 2019

Over 20 years ago, Daniel Goleman popularized the term Emotional Intelligence (EI). His best-selling book, Emotional Intelligence: Why it Matters More than IQ, informed readers of a theory that defines our understanding of the emotions we all feel. At the time, Goleman’s theory on EI was groundbreaking and expanded upon Howard Gardner’s work on Multiple Intelligences. There has been a great amount of thought and research developed over the years related to EI.

As stated by Jeffery Berstein, Ph. D. and author of Liking the Child You Love, EI appears to be a key predictor of children’s abilities to make suitable peer relationships, get along at home, develop a well-balanced outlook on life, and reach their academic potential at school. The term encompasses the following five characteristics and abilities:

1. Self-awareness – knowing your emotions, recognizing feelings as they occur, and discriminating between them.

2. Mood management – handling feelings so they’re relevant to the current situation and you react appropriately.

3. Self-motivation – “gathering up” your feelings and directing yourself toward a goal, despite self-doubt, inertia, and impulsiveness.

4. Empathy – recognizing feelings in others and tuning into their verbal and nonverbal cues.

5. Managing relationships – handling interpersonal interaction, conflict resolution, and negotiations.

DCM is currently hosting Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood: A Grr-ific Exhibit. This exhibit focuses on supporting children and their caregivers in navigating the challenges of developing social emotional skills. Come visit us, check it out, and tune in here next time for more on social emotional learning and Daniel Tiger!